Sex is important.
Even if you are a mom…ESPECIALLY if you are a mom!
Sex can help you stay connected with your partner. It can help you feel a little less like a woman covered in baby spit and yoga pants and more like a woman-hear-me-roar!
On a physical level sex can be really beneficial for moms. Sex…more specifically, orgasms, can help strengthen the pelvic floor. A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in their lives. Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.
Sex can also actually boost your immune system! According to sex expert Dr. Yvonne K. Fullbright, people who are sexually active take fewer sick days. Sex boosts antibodies in our body that fight against germs, viruses and other intruders.
Sex has also been found to lower blood pressure, reduce the risk of heart disease. Sex also can increase libido! The more you have, the more you want. And feeling sexy can be really important to many moms who might be feeling a little like strangers in their changing bodies.
Exercise can actually help you have a mind-blowing-health-enhancing sex life. And this is not because exercise will make you thin! It actually has nothing to do with aesthetics. In fact, one study actually found that people who do long bouts of exercise actually have a lower sex drive than people who don’t.
So, the type of exercise is really important!
Here are the exercises that we recommend to boost your sex drive and your sex life.
Leisure walks, especially walking outside can improve your sex life. Leisure walking has nothing to do with burning calories, but everything to do with balancing your hormones. Leisure walks help lower your stress, which helps to lower the stress hormone cortisol. This not only helps you stay more relaxed, but it also opens the door for more feel good, libido boosting hormones to flood your body.
A recent study showed that short, high intensity workouts can boost your sex drive and improve your sex life. When the intensity is high, remember to keep the duration short. 20 minutes or less is what you are looking for. These workouts should include short bursts of activity, then at least that same amount of rest and recovery. For example, if you sprint up a hill for 30 seconds, you would want to take at least 30 seconds to walk back down the hill slowly to recover.
Sex is best when we have the option of play. We tend to feel the sexiest when we can do all the things we want to do in the bedroom and out! Sex after baby can be like discovering sex again for the first time. Your body is different. You might have new time constraints. Things that you used to love might not get you going. Or you might want to try new things with your new body!
However, many new moms have very tight hips. Postural changes due to pregnancy can contribute to this. Try these three hip mobility exercises to open up your…options in the bedroom.
CARs for hips
Want more information about how to train for a strong body and a healthy sex life? Come see us!
And last, but not least, don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it! So often women are too embarrassed to talk about the symptoms that they are experiencing. Let’s normalize talking about the vagina, sex, leaking and whatever else our bodies do so that we can access important information and live our lives with the strength and confidence that we deserve!