“I think I want to wait until after Christmas next year to have another baby.”
This was part of a conversation that I was having with my husband over breakfast the morning of December 5th.
I had just received an email that StrongFirst was hosting a SFG 1 Kettlebell certification course in Seattle next September. I’ve been wanting to get this certification for the past 5 years and for one reason or another, the timing was never right. This time, it was right! I was so excited to get serious about training for the course requirements (swing, double clean, press, double front squat, get up and the 5 minute snatch test).
I also was also excited to train for the upcoming Highland Games season again. So, I figured if we waited until after Christmastime to get pregnant that I could compete in the Highland Games in the summer, attend SFG 1 in September and we could go on our family vacation to Southern California that we had been planning since 2016 without being my being pregnant (like I was last time – 8 months!) and without adding an extra family member to our bunch quite yet.
This was the conversation I was having over breakfast with my husband on December 5th. The afternoon of December 6th, I found out that I was pregnant.
A couple of weeks after I found out that I was pregnant morning sickness hit me like a Mack truck. I mean I was sick All. Of. The. Time. If I wasn’t throwing up I was thinking about it or almost about to. Fatigue and nausea have been really kicking my butt.
My workouts became almost nonexistent. I was averaging maybe one workout a week, sometimes none. I started to feel depressed and I have been feeling more aches and pains this time around. I knew that working out would help alleviate some of these things, but I couldn’t seem to bring myself to increase my frequency.
“I should be working out more,” has come out of my mouth countless times over the past 2 months. And I attributed my lack of activity to how I was feeling. I mean, the first trimester can kind of suck. But, not too long ago, I realized that there was actually more to it than that.
Yes, I’ve been feeling like crap, that’s true. But, I was also really lamenting the loss of my training goals.
I will be 7+ months pregnant when the Highland Games season begins and about a month postpartum if I attended the StrongFirst certification in September. Participating in or training for either of these things at this point is hardly appropriate. But, right before I found out that I was pregnant I felt like I was finally hitting my stride again after having Jack over 2 years ago. I felt strong, capable and was coming off of a high of a recent 275 lb deadlift PR. Getting pregnant felt like starting all over again.
Yes, we were excited to find out that we were pregnant. We always knew that we wanted a second child. But, I also was really bummed that the direction of my training had to change course. And, to be frank, I was feeling a little sorry for myself. “If I can’t do the stuff that I want to do, then why bother?” Kind of sad, right?
They say that you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. It may have taken me a couple of months to really discover what I wasn’t acknowledging, but I got there. No, I don’t get to train for the “big stuff” like StrongFirst SFG 1 and the Highland Games right now, but I do have something BIG to train for.
Pregnancy and childbirth is also the big stuff! And training for it is really, really important. I want a strong, healthy pregnancy. I want to prepare as best as I can for childbirth. I want to set myself up for a successful postpartum recovery. And focusing in on training for this time in my life is going to set me up to be able to get back to the other big stuff later.
So, I made a 180. It’s time to let go of what I can’t do and focus on what I can. It’s time to train for the big stuff – carrying and having a baby!
P.S. If you’re a coach, trainer or someone who wants to learn more about the ins and outs of training a pregnant and/or postpartum client make sure that you don’t miss the Willamette Trainers and Coaches Summit on March 9th and 10th! Get more event info and register here. (Use the code MCLEAN or TURNQUIST for a discount!)